How do I define arguments and fights?
Does my mate define them the same?
Are you sure that you and your mate has the same view on arguments?
Does your spouse assign it the same seriousness as you?
These are good things to know.
Change “Why are we always broke?” to:
What can I do to better understand the spending habits of my spouse and myself?
If money is a way to get joy in your life, this is valuable to know so you can find a suitable substitute.
Is there a class, a quiz, a test that can help you better understand your beliefs and habits?
Knowledge is power!
When is the best time to talk about money concerns with my mate?
Where does most of our money go each month?
What is a small change that I can take to save money?
Whether your solution is giving up a daily coffee, buying food in bulk, packing homemade lunches instead of eating out, or getting a part-time job, these questions tend to elicit solutions rather than despair.
What is my vision of healthy money habits?
Do you really know what your thoughts are about healthy money habits, or do they change based on the moment or how much money you have?
Where did I get my money beliefs from? And are they serving me?
It’s not uncommon for one partner to be more of a spender and the other to be more of a saver. That’s probably true of your parents, too.
Do you most identify with spender or saver?
Greater Intimacy in Marriage – Lost Spark
Change “Why doesn’t my husband want to make love to me anymore?” to:
Who do we have in our lives that are good roles models on keeping the romance alive?
Is there a class I can take or book that I can read to better understand how to regain the intimacy in my marriage?
How can I understand my husband’s needs better?
Have either my spouse or I changed our views on intimacy without discussing this with the other?
How can I best communicate that I want my husband to be more romantic?
What small action can I take today to show my spouse that I appreciate him?
Many times, women feel less attractive over time, but the men don’t feel less attracted than they’ve always felt. When you ask the right questions, you can’t help but uncover helpful clues as to what’s really going on (if anything) and what (if anything) needs to be done, as well as how you’re going to move forward.
My favorite questions of all are, “What is one SMALL step that I can take today to move us in the right direction?” and then, “What is one small step that I can take tomorrow to move us in the right direction?”
When you ask the right questions, you’ll find that problems seem to shrink in size, things go smoother in general, and meeting challenges is fun and relaxing instead of overwhelming. You can even ask, “Now that I know how to ask myself questions, what new fun things can I try that will make a happier me?”
How do you ask questions in your life and relationship? What areas of life are you happy with, and are there any new goals that you want to embrace? What questions would you add or remove from this list?
Happy & Productive Questioning!